Why are men afraid to talk about emotions? Episode 84

Men's mental health 

For years, societal norms have placed a burden on men to suppress their emotions and feign strength, even in the most difficult moments. Stereotypes about 'true masculinity' often block men from talking openly about their feelings, leading to a growing problem of depression, loneliness, or suicide attempts. As Bard Kowalski points out, ignoring men's mental health is a huge challenge, requiring a shift in perspective.

Sharing his experiences, Bard points out that being open about one's emotions is not a sign of weakness, but of strength. The belief that men 'should cope alone' often leads to destructive silence. Mental health, like physical health, requires care and support, both from loved ones and professionals.

Masculine strength lies in authenticity

Bard Kowalski says he owes the ability to talk about emotions to his mother and grandmother. Being brought up surrounded by women, he learned that expressing his feelings does not make anyone weak, but on the contrary, allows him to better understand himself and his relationships with others. However, in a world where men are required to be 'tough' and reserved, this attitude was not always met with acceptance. In both his personal and professional life, Bard has had to face incomprehension and judgement, which has only reinforced his conviction of the need to change social patterns.

A watershed moment for him was his battle with depression and a suicide attempt, which forced him to look at himself from a completely new perspective. Talking about his feelings, he says, was the beginning of his healing process and the foundation of the authenticity he now brings to his work. "Authenticity in expressing emotions is a man's strength," he stresses, adding that talking openly not only allows you to understand yourself, but also inspires others to seek help.

Distorted social media as a trap for an ideal image

Social media often portrays an idealised reality, which can lead to emotional problems, especially for those comparing themselves to this unattainable world. Bard Kowalski notes that the 80% of what we see online is an illusion, and the pursuit of such an ideal often ends in a sense of unfulfilment.

Although Kowalski uses social media professionally, he tries not to be its prisoner. We are the ones in control of what we show and we don't have to follow idealised models, and authenticity should be more important than a perfect image.

Mission to help and build empathy

Through his activities, Bard Kowalski shows the great importance of emotional support in difficult moments of life. Working with foundations supporting children with oncology and people with disabilities, he reminds us of the power of simple gestures and words that build bridges between people.

He emphasises that in a challenging world, empathy is the foundation on which to build better relationships. His actions inspire people to see others - both in moments of joy and in difficult moments. It's not just a matter of material assistance, but above all of creating a space where everyone can feel understood and appreciated.

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